Pickleball has a Middle School Problem

One thing I've learned after decades of playing competitive racquet and paddle sports is this...

Every sport has its middle school moments.

Pickleball is no different.

You see players refusing to play with someone because they're "not good enough."

You see cliques form.

Sometimes people get left out.

Sometimes players forget that everyone was new once.

It's unfortunate, but it's also part of almost every growing sport.

One of the questions I get asked more than almost anything is:

"Steve, I know I need to play with better players to improve... but how do I actually get invited?"

My answer is usually the same.

1. Be the person people enjoy being around.

Your attitude matters more than your rating.

Show up positive.

Encourage good shots.

Laugh at your own mistakes.

Bring good energy to the court.

People remember how you made them feel long after they forget the score.


2. Know your role.

This one is important.

If you're stepping into a stronger group, realize that the other three players may all be trying to prove something to each other.

Your job isn't to outshine everyone.

Your job is to make everyone's game better.

That means keeping rallies alive instead of forcing winners.

Set your partner up instead of trying to finish every point yourself.

And one simple thing I always recommend...

Offer to stack and play the right side.

Tell your stronger partner to take the middle with their forehand.

You'll immediately take pressure off them, and they'll appreciate that you understand team strategy.

Ironically, the less you try to impress everyone, the more they'll usually want to play with you again.


3. Be grateful.

Never underestimate the power of a simple:

"Thanks for the games."
"I really appreciate you letting me jump in."
"It was great playing with you."

People remember gratitude.

The best players I've ever been around aren't just skilled.

They're generous.

They make other people want to come back.

And that's ultimately what makes pickleball so special.

At the end of the day, we're all just trying to enjoy a game we love.